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The Accountability That Never Comes from West Mercia Police
May 28, 2024. A date burned into my memory. The day everything I thought was safe crumbled. The day the anti-corruption team arrived at my workplace. I had no idea that standing up against police misconduct would trigger such panic. Or that it would spread through a department so deeply embedded in a culture of
Coercive Control and Family Court Lived Experience: What Happened When Evidence Isn’t Enough (Part 6 of 8)
This is my sixth family court appearance. I walked into that building believing I might not walk out again. What unfolded that day showed me how coercive control doesn’t end at separation, it adapts, using the courtroom itself as a weapon.
A Year Ago Today: The Disclosure That Changed Everything
A year ago today, I disclosed four years of domestic abuse — and the police officer I trusted used his position to cause even more harm. This is the reality of what happens when the system meant to protect you becomes another source of trauma.
Returning to Work with PTSD: When a Place of Safety No Longer Feels Safe
A survivor-led account of returning to work with PTSD, exploring trauma as neurological injury, ongoing coercive control, neuroplasticity, and the impact of systems that fail to protect.
🕯️ When Night Falls: Flashbacks, Flash-Forwards, and the Weight of PTSD
A survivor’s reflection on PTSD, flashbacks, and delayed trauma responses while navigating safeguarding processes, family court pressures, and the struggle to remain functional.
Navigating Triggers: Seeking Help After Traumatic Experiences
A trauma-informed reflection on PTSD and C-PTSD, exploring hypervigilance, sleep deprivation, institutional triggers, and why healing cannot begin while threat remains. A lived-experience and professional perspective, two years on.
On Trust, Sanctuary, and Quiet Protection
A reflective Founder’s Journal entry on trust, discretion, and safety, shared as originally written and revisited two years on.
Learning to recognise and manage triggers of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from coercive control
A raw, unedited account of surviving coercive control, PTSD triggers, and systemic failures, shared two years on with updated pronouns and branding. A survivor‑led reflection on parenting through trauma, recognising nervous system responses, and navigating the ongoing impact of abuse within the family court system.
Two Years On: The Day I Met Jackie
(Names changed where indicated) Originally written: July 2024Reviewed & archived: January 2026 Content Warning This post references police investigations, institutional scrutiny, and the psychological impact of retraumatisation. It may be distressing for survivors of abuse or those affected by professional misconduct. Two Years On — Archive Note As part of the Two Years On series,
Finding Strength in Tough Times Through Simple Acts of Kindness
Life after leaving abuse is not simple recovery. This reflective piece explores ongoing trauma, professional masking, grief, and survival — and how unexpected kindness from strangers can create moments of safety when everything feels overwhelming.
