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The Friday Everything Broke
After my coercive control case was dropped and police corruption became undeniable, I collapsed at work. This is what despair after re-traumatisation really looks like — and why it is never a sign of weakness.
Finding Silence in the Midst of Overload: Navigating Safety and Trauma
Many individuals carry the burden of trauma from relationships with narcissists, finding home a challenging space filled with anxiety and reminders of their past. Hyper-vigilance wears on the nervous system, complicating daily life and parenting. Healing takes time and small anchors like mindfulness, safe spaces, and support help reclaim one’s story, emphasizing resilience and connection.
ADHD, RSD and Coercive Control: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding and Awareness
In July 2023 I was diagnosed with Combined Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. For the first time in my life, everything made sense. I had never realised that the constant internal restlessness I lived with was hyperactivity. I did not know it could present this way, but it is common in women and girls. I had
When the Police Came Knocking: A Personal Journey Through Fear and Recovery
29 December 2024 — 11.45pm “I don’t want to be labelled as resilient or strong, nor do I want to bear the weight of those expectations. I simply want to be myself — to live freely, unshackled by the burdens of the past and the control others seek to impose on my future.” I finally
The Cost of Speaking Truth: A Year That Changed Everything
December 27, 2024 I found myself thinking about the past year this morning, and what might come next. It’s been nearly seven months since Professional Standards and Anti‑Corruption turned up at my workplace. I had no idea what was coming, and I certainly didn’t expect my life to be turned upside down all over again.
And Then She Was Gone
After reliving abuse to 19 officers, I found one who listened—Jackie from Professional Standards—only to lose that refuge as systemic failures and misconduct put children and truth at risk. — Sister Laura
Coercive Control and Family Court Lived Experience: What Happened When Evidence Isn’t Enough (Part 6 of 8)
This is my sixth family court appearance. I walked into that building believing I might not walk out again. What unfolded that day showed me how coercive control doesn’t end at separation, it adapts, using the courtroom itself as a weapon.
Police Victim Blaming in Domestic Abuse Cases: The Hidden Trauma No One Talks About
Survivor‑Led Neurodiversity & Trauma Education Advocate and Founder of NAAVoices.com
A Year Ago Today: The Disclosure That Changed Everything
A year ago today, I disclosed four years of domestic abuse — and the police officer I trusted used his position to cause even more harm. This is the reality of what happens when the system meant to protect you becomes another source of trauma.
The Impact of Ignoring Domestic Abuse Reports
The Day Everything Changed The root of the problem was not a lack of disclosure.It was what happened after I asked for help. The actions and decisions taken by the first officer I disclosed abuse to had a profound and lasting impact on my life after leaving an abusive relationship. That initial response shaped everything
