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Coercive Control and Family Court Lived Experience: Part 8 of 8 — This time I Knew the Script
The paperwork arrived with a familiar script. I stayed at work, managed the adrenaline, and logged into the remote hearing steady. No performance—just dates, notes, and boundaries. This is how I handled a professional standards playbook using documentation, ordinary decency, and integrity.
Why I Write
A survivor’s testimony documenting coercive control and police failures, the timeline she built to protect her children, and a call to prioritise child safety.
The Accountability That Never Comes from West Mercia Police
May 28, 2024. A date burned into my memory. The day everything I thought was safe crumbled. The day the anti-corruption team arrived at my workplace. I had no idea that standing up against police misconduct would trigger such panic. Or that it would spread through a department so deeply embedded in a culture of
The Power of Truth: Advocating Against Police Misconduct
Walking Through the Corridor of Truth: A Journey of Pain, Corruption, and Resilience Last week, two friends unknowingly shared the same thought on the same day—the 11th. Little did they know that this date holds profound significance for me. It marked the day I walked down my work corridor. I confronted the shadows of my
Finding Strength Amidst Chaos and Control
A deeply honest reflection on surviving long‑term psychological abuse while trying to stay grounded, protect a child, and hold on to a sense of self. This piece explores the exhaustion of constant manipulation, the weight of family court, and the quiet moments—like watching the stars from a layby—that offer brief peace in the middle of…
The Friday Everything Broke
After my coercive control case was dropped and police corruption became undeniable, I collapsed at work. This is what despair after re-traumatisation really looks like — and why it is never a sign of weakness.
Finding Silence in the Midst of Overload: Navigating Safety and Trauma
Many individuals carry the burden of trauma from relationships with narcissists, finding home a challenging space filled with anxiety and reminders of their past. Hyper-vigilance wears on the nervous system, complicating daily life and parenting. Healing takes time and small anchors like mindfulness, safe spaces, and support help reclaim one’s story, emphasizing resilience and connection.
ADHD, RSD and Coercive Control: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding and Awareness
In July 2023 I was diagnosed with Combined Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. For the first time in my life, everything made sense. I had never realised that the constant internal restlessness I lived with was hyperactivity. I did not know it could present this way, but it is common in women and girls. I had
When the Police Came Knocking: A Personal Journey Through Fear and Recovery
29 December 2024 — 11.45pm “I don’t want to be labelled as resilient or strong, nor do I want to bear the weight of those expectations. I simply want to be myself — to live freely, unshackled by the burdens of the past and the control others seek to impose on my future.” I finally
The Cost of Speaking Truth: A Year That Changed Everything
December 27, 2024 I found myself thinking about the past year this morning, and what might come next. It’s been nearly seven months since Professional Standards and Anti‑Corruption turned up at my workplace. I had no idea what was coming, and I certainly didn’t expect my life to be turned upside down all over again.
