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When Rest Feels Unfamiliar: What a Quiet Evening Led Me to Learn About Polyvagal Theory
What happens when you finally stop and realise you don’t know how to rest? A quiet evening of reflection led me into learning about polyvagal theory and how our nervous system responds to safety, stress and trauma. A personal reflection on lived experience, healthcare training and understanding the body’s survival responses.
Looking Back: How Acceptance Changed Everything
A personal reflection on parenting, healing, and supporting a child’s identity with love, safety, and acceptance.
The Lay-By That Held Me Together
A quiet, reflective piece about the lay‑by that became a lifeline during years of trauma. Returning there after difficult news revealed something profound: the body can learn safety again, and the places that once held our fear can become proof that we survived.
Accountability Doesn’t Vanish Simply Because a System Looks Away
Learning to Live a Life I Never Understood For the past two and a half years, I’ve been living a life I never expected to face. People often say that after two years, things should feel different, that healing should have taken root by now. And in some ways, it has. There are days when
When ADHD Met PTSD: How Trauma Rewired My Brain and How Understanding That Saved Me
Content note: This piece discusses suicidal ideation and trauma. If you’re struggling, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Resources are at the end. For 34 years, I lived with ADHD, and never once needed mental health services. I’d worked through the front line during COVID, wards, diabetes clinics, and mental health services. Thirty-hour weeks, raising
At 34, Everything Changed
At 34, Everything Changed December 15, 2025 The Mother They Created When They Failed My Children At 34, I lost everything. Not my job—work remained my only safe haven, the one place that still made sense when nothing else did. What I lost was far more fundamental. I lost my belief that people do the
Day 5: The Science Behind Survival – When Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Tries to Forget
Healing from abuse isn’t just cognitive. The nervous system remembers, but it can also relearn safety through the body.
Day 6: Leaving Isn’t a Single Event, It’s Reclaiming Yourself, Piece by Piece
Freedom after abuse isn’t easy—but it is possible. Breaking chains and walking through the door is costly, but worth every breath.
DAY 7 | The Mask of Charm, When Public Persona Hides Private Harm
Not everyone who appears kind truly is. Some abusers master the art of public charm while inflicting private cruelty. This piece explores the disorienting experience of being harmed by someone the world praises—where words become weapons, silence becomes punishment, and charm becomes the perfect disguise.
DAY 8 | The Quiet Before It Starts, Recognising the Calm That Isn’t
Abuse rarely begins loudly—it arrives disguised as love, concern, and protection. As Domestic Abuse Awareness Month winds down, this reflection explores how coercive control first appears as quiet devotion, slowly shrinking your world until your autonomy is traded for someone else’s comfort.
