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When Rest Feels Unfamiliar: What a Quiet Evening Led Me to Learn About Polyvagal Theory
What happens when you finally stop and realise you don’t know how to rest? A quiet evening of reflection led me into learning about polyvagal theory and how our nervous system responds to safety, stress and trauma. A personal reflection on lived experience, healthcare training and understanding the body’s survival responses.
When the Training Becomes Personal
When the Training Becomes Personal December 28, 2025 I’ve just completed the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery training, and it was tougher than expected. I began to deepen my understanding of supporting others through this. Facing how deeply it resonated with my own experiences required absolute honesty, humility, and resilience. This process reinforced a critical point: recovery
When Emergency Calm Hides a Different Kind of Crisis
When Emergency Calm Hides a Different Kind of Crisis 25 November 202 Content note: This post discusses domestic abuse, child trauma, safeguarding concerns, and emergency medical situations. Two Years On — And Still Learning Two years after leaving domestic abuse, people tell me how strong I am. They see how I keep going, how I
Day 5: The Science Behind Survival – When Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Tries to Forget
Healing from abuse isn’t just cognitive. The nervous system remembers, but it can also relearn safety through the body.
DAY 8 | The Quiet Before It Starts, Recognising the Calm That Isn’t
Abuse rarely begins loudly—it arrives disguised as love, concern, and protection. As Domestic Abuse Awareness Month winds down, this reflection explores how coercive control first appears as quiet devotion, slowly shrinking your world until your autonomy is traded for someone else’s comfort.
The Power of Truth: Advocating Against Police Misconduct
Walking Through the Corridor of Truth: A Journey of Pain, Corruption, and Resilience Last week, two friends unknowingly shared the same thought on the same day—the 11th. Little did they know that this date holds profound significance for me. It marked the day I walked down my work corridor. I confronted the shadows of my
The Friday Everything Broke
After my coercive control case was dropped and police corruption became undeniable, I collapsed at work. This is what despair after re-traumatisation really looks like — and why it is never a sign of weakness.
When the Police Came Knocking: A Personal Journey Through Fear and Recovery
29 December 2024 — 11.45pm “I don’t want to be labelled as resilient or strong, nor do I want to bear the weight of those expectations. I simply want to be myself — to live freely, unshackled by the burdens of the past and the control others seek to impose on my future.” I finally
Learning to recognise and manage triggers of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from coercive control
A raw, unedited account of surviving coercive control, PTSD triggers, and systemic failures, shared two years on with updated pronouns and branding. A survivor‑led reflection on parenting through trauma, recognising nervous system responses, and navigating the ongoing impact of abuse within the family court system.
