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At 34, Everything Changed
At 34, Everything Changed December 15, 2025 The Mother They Created When They Failed My Children At 34, I lost everything. Not my job—work remained my only safe haven, the one place that still made sense when nothing else did. What I lost was far more fundamental. I lost my belief that people do the
When Emergency Calm Hides a Different Kind of Crisis
When Emergency Calm Hides a Different Kind of Crisis 25 November 202 Content note: This post discusses domestic abuse, child trauma, safeguarding concerns, and emergency medical situations. Two Years On — And Still Learning Two years after leaving domestic abuse, people tell me how strong I am. They see how I keep going, how I
Day 2 Pending- Breaking the Silence about West Mercia Police
Most people never hear what happens after the harm is done — especially when systems, not survivors, are protected. This post breaks the silence on the procedural failures behind the investigation into Sgt Conrad Smith, revealing how missed witnesses, delayed decisions, and institutional assumptions caused avoidable damage. This is not character assassination but a survivor’s…
DAY 7 | The Mask of Charm, When Public Persona Hides Private Harm
Not everyone who appears kind truly is. Some abusers master the art of public charm while inflicting private cruelty. This piece explores the disorienting experience of being harmed by someone the world praises—where words become weapons, silence becomes punishment, and charm becomes the perfect disguise.
DAY 8 | The Quiet Before It Starts, Recognising the Calm That Isn’t
Abuse rarely begins loudly—it arrives disguised as love, concern, and protection. As Domestic Abuse Awareness Month winds down, this reflection explores how coercive control first appears as quiet devotion, slowly shrinking your world until your autonomy is traded for someone else’s comfort.
Living Behind the Mask: My Journey with PTSD
There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes with surviving trauma — not just the initial impact, but the daily reality of living in a world that no longer feels safe. For me, trauma arrived in two devastating waves. The first was domestic abuse that shattered my sense of home. The second was police corruption
Finding Silence in the Midst of Overload: Navigating Safety and Trauma
Many individuals carry the burden of trauma from relationships with narcissists, finding home a challenging space filled with anxiety and reminders of their past. Hyper-vigilance wears on the nervous system, complicating daily life and parenting. Healing takes time and small anchors like mindfulness, safe spaces, and support help reclaim one’s story, emphasizing resilience and connection.
ADHD, RSD and Coercive Control: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding and Awareness
In July 2023 I was diagnosed with Combined Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. For the first time in my life, everything made sense. I had never realised that the constant internal restlessness I lived with was hyperactivity. I did not know it could present this way, but it is common in women and girls. I had
A Year Ago Today: The Disclosure That Changed Everything
A year ago today, I disclosed four years of domestic abuse — and the police officer I trusted used his position to cause even more harm. This is the reality of what happens when the system meant to protect you becomes another source of trauma.
