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Finding Strength Amidst Chaos and Control
A deeply honest reflection on surviving long‑term psychological abuse while trying to stay grounded, protect a child, and hold on to a sense of self. This piece explores the exhaustion of constant manipulation, the weight of family court, and the quiet moments—like watching the stars from a layby—that offer brief peace in the middle of…
The Friday Everything Broke
After my coercive control case was dropped and police corruption became undeniable, I collapsed at work. This is what despair after re-traumatisation really looks like — and why it is never a sign of weakness.
Finding Silence in the Midst of Overload: Navigating Safety and Trauma
Many individuals carry the burden of trauma from relationships with narcissists, finding home a challenging space filled with anxiety and reminders of their past. Hyper-vigilance wears on the nervous system, complicating daily life and parenting. Healing takes time and small anchors like mindfulness, safe spaces, and support help reclaim one’s story, emphasizing resilience and connection.
ADHD, RSD and Coercive Control: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding and Awareness
In July 2023 I was diagnosed with Combined Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. For the first time in my life, everything made sense. I had never realised that the constant internal restlessness I lived with was hyperactivity. I did not know it could present this way, but it is common in women and girls. I had
When the Police Came Knocking: A Personal Journey Through Fear and Recovery
29 December 2024 — 11.45pm “I don’t want to be labelled as resilient or strong, nor do I want to bear the weight of those expectations. I simply want to be myself — to live freely, unshackled by the burdens of the past and the control others seek to impose on my future.” I finally
Big Hearts: A Four-Year-Old, a Stranger, and a 60-Mile Round Trip
A chance encounter with a homeless artist in a car park turned into one of the most powerful lessons in empathy I’ve ever witnessed — all led by my four-year-old son. This is what kindness looks like when no one teaches it.
The Cost of Speaking Truth: A Year That Changed Everything
December 27, 2024 I found myself thinking about the past year this morning, and what might come next. It’s been nearly seven months since Professional Standards and Anti‑Corruption turned up at my workplace. I had no idea what was coming, and I certainly didn’t expect my life to be turned upside down all over again.
The Heartache of Time Lost: A Journey Through Isolation and Healing
A personal story of losing precious years with my grandma due to coercive control, the grief that followed, and the slow journey back to family, safety, and self.
The Heartache of Time Lost: A Journey Through Isolation and Healing
A survivor’s account of years lost to isolation and abuse, the pain of estranged family ties, and the slow work of reclaiming connection and healing.
And Then She Was Gone
After reliving abuse to 19 officers, I found one who listened—Jackie from Professional Standards—only to lose that refuge as systemic failures and misconduct put children and truth at risk. — Sister Laura
