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NAAVoices: Narcissist’s Cycle of Abuse | A Trauma‑Informed Resource for Survivors & Practitioners
The guide explains the cycle of narcissistic abuse, highlighting four stages: Idealisation, Devaluation, Discard, and Hoovering. It emphasizes how such abuse affects victims psychologically and emotionally, often leading to anxiety and confusion. Supported by UK research, it advocates for awareness, safety planning, and accessing domestic abuse resources for recovery.
Day 3 of 8 The System That Kept Me Silent: Understanding the Architecture of Abuse
Manipulation is deliberate, strategic, and designed to control. This post breaks down how abuse is engineered—and how survivors can respond safely.
DAY 7 | The Mask of Charm, When Public Persona Hides Private Harm
Not everyone who appears kind truly is. Some abusers master the art of public charm while inflicting private cruelty. This piece explores the disorienting experience of being harmed by someone the world praises—where words become weapons, silence becomes punishment, and charm becomes the perfect disguise.
DAY 8 | The Quiet Before It Starts, Recognising the Calm That Isn’t
Abuse rarely begins loudly—it arrives disguised as love, concern, and protection. As Domestic Abuse Awareness Month winds down, this reflection explores how coercive control first appears as quiet devotion, slowly shrinking your world until your autonomy is traded for someone else’s comfort.
Living Behind the Mask: My Journey with PTSD
There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes with surviving trauma — not just the initial impact, but the daily reality of living in a world that no longer feels safe. For me, trauma arrived in two devastating waves. The first was domestic abuse that shattered my sense of home. The second was police corruption
ADHD, RSD and Coercive Control: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding and Awareness
In July 2023 I was diagnosed with Combined Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. For the first time in my life, everything made sense. I had never realised that the constant internal restlessness I lived with was hyperactivity. I did not know it could present this way, but it is common in women and girls. I had
The Heartache of Time Lost: A Journey Through Isolation and Healing
A personal story of losing precious years with my grandma due to coercive control, the grief that followed, and the slow journey back to family, safety, and self.
