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Family Court Forms Guide
A clear, accessible guide to essential UK family court forms, including FL401 non‑molestation and occupation order applications, the FL401T witness statement template, and the C8 confidentiality form. Each section explains what the form is for, when to use it, and how to access it — supporting your safety, clarity and confidence throughout family court proceedings.
NAAVoices: Narcissist’s Cycle of Abuse | A Trauma‑Informed Resource for Survivors & Practitioners
The guide explains the cycle of narcissistic abuse, highlighting four stages: Idealisation, Devaluation, Discard, and Hoovering. It emphasizes how such abuse affects victims psychologically and emotionally, often leading to anxiety and confusion. Supported by UK research, it advocates for awareness, safety planning, and accessing domestic abuse resources for recovery.
At 34, Everything Changed
At 34, Everything Changed December 15, 2025 The Mother They Created When They Failed My Children At 34, I lost everything. Not my job—work remained my only safe haven, the one place that still made sense when nothing else did. What I lost was far more fundamental. I lost my belief that people do the
Day 1 — A Personal Account of Police Corruption, Institutional Betrayal, and What Happens When One Officer Dares to Do the Right Thing
Two years after fleeing domestic abuse with three children and one plastic bag, this first-hand account documents what happened when repeated disclosures of child abuse, coercive control, and serious safeguarding risks were met with silence, dismissal, and institutional failure — until one officer chose to do his job properly. Part One of a two-part testimony…
Day 2 Pending- Breaking the Silence about West Mercia Police
Most people never hear what happens after the harm is done — especially when systems, not survivors, are protected. This post breaks the silence on the procedural failures behind the investigation into Sgt Conrad Smith, revealing how missed witnesses, delayed decisions, and institutional assumptions caused avoidable damage. This is not character assassination but a survivor’s…
Day 3 of 8 The System That Kept Me Silent: Understanding the Architecture of Abuse
Manipulation is deliberate, strategic, and designed to control. This post breaks down how abuse is engineered—and how survivors can respond safely.
Day 4: “It’s OUR Money Now” – The Financial Prison Nobody Sees
Financial abuse rarely starts with theft. It starts with control, dependency, and “love.” This post exposes the financial prison nobody sees.
DAY 8 | The Quiet Before It Starts, Recognising the Calm That Isn’t
Abuse rarely begins loudly—it arrives disguised as love, concern, and protection. As Domestic Abuse Awareness Month winds down, this reflection explores how coercive control first appears as quiet devotion, slowly shrinking your world until your autonomy is traded for someone else’s comfort.
ADHD, RSD and Coercive Control: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding and Awareness
In July 2023 I was diagnosed with Combined Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. For the first time in my life, everything made sense. I had never realised that the constant internal restlessness I lived with was hyperactivity. I did not know it could present this way, but it is common in women and girls. I had
Navigating Trauma Through a Professional Standards Investigation
The author reflects on a calm meeting with a Professional Standards officer regarding misconduct allegations, contrasting it with past anxiety. Despite feeling composed, they describe the lasting psychological effects of the investigation and ongoing trauma from police failures. The encounter raises concerns about the lasting impact of being labeled a victim and PTSD symptoms.
